I have two dogs, one is an 8 yr old maltese and the other is a 4 month bichon. You would suspect that the puppy has been giving me the most trouble but that is not the case. Its my older one. if i had to choose four words to describe her they would be stubborn, neurotic, impatient, and completely helpless. She’s always been one of those dogs that has to have things in just the right place. If i leave a laundry basket or a box in the hallway or somewhere where it is "supposed" to be she will bark at it until i move it. She was well trained (emphasis on the word WAS) and we always considered her an extraordinarily smart dog. She really understands words very well but doesn’t necessarily follow commands. The first problem and the most annoying is her inability to drink water. We have consulted vets, groomers, trainers, other pet owners, and the internet and even considered getting a dog whisperer. This has been happening for probably three years now and we’ve kind of given up. She will walk over to her water bowl and bark and bark and bark until someone comes over and puts a hand on her back and only then will she drink. We thought maybe her collar was hitting the bowl so we removed it. We thought maybe she was afraid that something on the bookcase near the bowl would fall on her so we moved it. We thought maybe she couldn’t see the water so we dyed it, then put floaty things in it. We thought maybe she was just trying to get attention so we ignored her. She didn’t drink for 2 days and had horrible constipation. We just have no idea what do about this. Next, she wont eat. she quit eating her kibble this summer because she got bloody diarrhea so we changed her over to wet food which she hardly eats anymore. She just stands at that treat drawer and begs for cookies. Thats all she wants all the time. she will eat her food when she gets really desperate, but only when she gets really desperate. She must think we are starving her! She follows me around everywhere and with the new dog, we have had to put baby gates up all over the house, she has a fit and barks and barks and barks and barks if i have left her on one side of a gated off area until i come back or one of my family members lets her free. She has developed a habit of begging and whining to go out so when we take her out she just stands and watches the street and our cul de sac. Especially at night, she hates it when i sit down to relax and watch tv. But just cannot stand it when me and my family have a movie night and we turn the lights off. I’d say that just about every 10 minutes she’s whining to go out again. so we take her out and guess what? she stands and watches. She has also developed a fear of hardwood floors. This is completely beyond me. The only think i can think is that she is not comfortable not getting traction and is afraid of slipping but she shivers and shakes and whines. he’s ok with our wood floors and has no trouble but when we go some place else she has a panic attack. It’s so sad and we dont know what to do for her. If she’s not panicking or whining or barking then she stays in her crate all day long. so thats why we got a puppy. We thought she was lonely and sad and needed someone to play with, and it has helped but she still just sits in her crate for most of the day and only comes out and plays in the night. which leads me to my next problem: the little dog.
The little dog is so sweet and adorable and happy and stays relatively close and responds to no and so great she’s been such a joy to have in our lives. such a wonderful change from our older dog whos outlook on life is what i would discribe as "gray". But we are having potty training problems. He have had her since december 8th and have worked night and day and read books and have tried very hard. She has learned what the words "go potty" mean and will releave herself outdoors pretty close to on demand but she hasnt yet quit urinating and pooping in the house. Her peeing is pretty well undercontrol. we take her out routinely once and hour. we even set the timer and if she doesnt go then we set the timer again for 15 minutes and take her out again until she uses. but the pooping. anywhere and everywhere. ive heard it all. we use bells, training spray, cookies, lots and lots of praise. weve blocked off all carpets and tried very hard. if you have any suggestions at alli would really appreciate it.
im sorry this was so long but i figure the more info i give the easier it may be to understand why they are doing these things and how i can help. if its something we’re doing or something we’re not doing then we are prepared to try it. me and my family are at our breaking point and take into consideration all suggestions. thanks again for taking the time to help. if you got through this whole thing that i applaud you! 🙂
guys let me just clarify, i love the older dog to death. and when i hear you tell me to take her to the pound or put her down it just breaks my heart. she is just as much apart of my family as my children are and would you take them to the pound? Yes, i am so fed up with this behavior it is driving me nuts but i would rather deal with it for the rest of my life then give her away because when she is happy, she is the sweetest most well behaved dog i think there ever was, but lately, she hasn’t been happy. ultimately that’s my number one goal: to make her happy again. and all of your suggestions i have really appreciated so far, but just know that giving her up is NOT an option.