I still can't believe she's dead, I miss her so much.?


This Thursday at 11 o’ clock the vet rang and told my mum Polly had a problem with her bone marrow and was no longer producing red blood cells, was very weak not eaten in days and was losing weight quickly, my mum rang my dad called him home from work and by 1 o’ clock Polly had been put to sleep through the reccomendation of the vet. (We were by her side all the way and she died with us around her)

Before that phone call I never thought anything was badly wrong with her and thought she would be home from the vets later that day, 2 hours later she was gone. I just can’t believe it, she always seemed so healthy until a week prior to this, and even then it didn’t seem bad. I just didn’t have time to prepare myself and I still think I will see her sat on her mat in the living room or sprawled out in the garden in the sun.

I just feel like she wasn’t ready to die, she was so happy when she saw us come down to the vets and thought she was going home. I feel so guilty.

How long does it take to come to terms with what has happened and how long will it take before me and my parents are ready to get a new dog?

Is it normal to feel guilty after your pet gets put to sleep?
Polly was our 11 year old boxer, we had her since she was 12 weeks old.

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    5 Responses to “I still can't believe she's dead, I miss her so much.?”

    1. Metal Nettle says:

      I’m so sorry, we lost our lab X dalmation in February 2008. She got sick Wednesday night and despite an emergency operation, the massive infection killed her Friday. We weren’t allowed to visit her in hospital, she went right to surgery to recovery, to intensive care and back to surgery, so the last time I saw her was 1am when I left her with strangers when she was ill.

      We could have destroyed ourselves over it, but you have to think about what else they had, they had a *good* life, a happy life, with people who loved them, they were well cared for and at the end, their people did the best they possibly could for them.

      I was so sad by Sasha death, but my husband was devastated and my son had been moved to a new school the Monday before she got sick, it was a terribly blow for all of us. I knew Big D needed something to distract him….so I bought him a black lab puppy. Sasha died on Friday, the puppy was in our house on Sunday. I absolutely believe that puppy was heaven sent, she is bold and beautiful and D loves her more than anything, she saved him from his grief.

      You can not replace a lost friend, but another dog will help you with the void. We’d got Sasha after Gena died. I was trimming steak one night and I automatically put my hand down to give her the offcuts and realised she wasn’t coming to get them and D and I just looked at each other 🙁 There was Geronimo and Coco and Shadow and Brin and Gena and Sasha and Dallas….it’s like the Bible, one follows another, it’s natural.

      It took me a bit longer to warm to the puppy, Big D and Little D loved her at first sight, I wanted my Sasha back and the new dog didn’t feel right for at least a month for me, I loved her and I was good to her but she wasn’t Sash, and I felt guilty when I cuddled her or laughed at the silly puppy things she did, but Dallas is the love of everyones life now, she comes to school to collect our son and all the kids know her by name, random strangers wander over and love on her, and she loves them back.

      Sooner rather than later, get another friend, anyone who says money can’t buy you love has never had a puppy.

    2. Kara S says:

      I’m so sorry that your dog passed away. They are not just our pets but also members of our family. Even though they are gone, always remember that you will always have him in your heart. Cherish those memories and know that nobody can ever take those away from you.
      It will take time to get over your loss. There’s no way to know just how long it will take to get over losing your dog. Just know that it is not your fault that your dog died. I lost one of my dogs recently and making the decision to put them to sleep is a difficult one, but it’s for the best if they are in a lot of pain and suffering. If your dog was 11 years-old, then you must have taken very good care of her. You gave her a great life.
      Cherish your memories of your dog and remember that nobody can ever take those away from you. Best of luck. Hope I helped.

    3. Javier says:

      When i was in the child we adopted a german shepard mix. He lived 14 great years. When he died i have NEVER EVER seen my father so sad. There is no set time period on mourning a death of a pet. Eventually we got over it and look back at the years we had with him and appreciate they joy he gave us.

      Im an adult now and rescued 2 dogs. A 3 yr old chihuahua and a 4 month old pitbull/corso mix. They are great. One day i know they will pass away. But knowing that i gave them a loving home that they may have never had is great to know.

      Best of luck and sorry for ur loss.

    4. misscrancky says:

      It will take a while to come to terms with the death of a pet. They are part of the family too. My black Lab passed away in Jan. ’09 and I am still hurting over her death. She had Parvo. I had to watch her die slowly over 5 days. That was HARD. I have her pictures with me all the time and I still sit around and cry. Take as much time as you need. It’s not easy. Sorry about ur loss

    5. ♫♥ SamanthaMariee!(: says:

      I’m so sorry for your loss. It’s very difficult dealing with the death of a pet, especially since you had her for so long.

      You did the right thing. She was suffering, and she would have went very quickly anyway. You put her out of her misery, so don’t nag yourself about that.

      You had her for such a long time, so just think of the happy times you had with her. Do you have any funny pictures of her that you can put on your dresser or on your mirror to remember her by? When you’re missing her, look at the picture and laugh, or think of a funny memory you had with her. It’s important to remember the good times.

      Some poems to help with your grief:

      Here’s one of my favorites. I don’t know who wrote it, but it helped me when my cat was put down:

      If it should be that I grow frail and weak,
      And pain does keep me from my sleep,
      Then will you do what must be done?
      For this, the last battle, can’t be won.

      You will be sad, I understand
      But don’t let your grief stay on your hand.
      For on this day, more than the rest,
      Your love and friendship must stand the test.

      We have had so many happy years,
      You wouldn’t want me to suffer so.
      When the time comes, please, let me go.

      Take me to where my needs they will tend,
      Only, stay with me until the end.
      And hold me firm and speak to me,
      Until my eyes no longer see.

      I know in time you will agree,
      It is a kindness you do to me.
      Although my tail its last has waved,
      From pain and suffering I have been saved.

      Don’t grieve that it must now be you
      Who has to decide this thing to do.
      We’ve been so close, we two, these years,
      Don’t let your heart hold any tears.